Sometimes not getting the expected results can benefit us more than we think, but failure in the face of a sporting challenge causes frustration. It is important to understand and know how to handle this unpleasant feeling and take advantage of it to strengthen emotional intelligence, from the youngest who start in the sport, like veterans who know what this feeling of frustration is about.
Frustration in general appears at times as a defeat in a competition, disappointment or impotence of not having achieved goals that have been set, not performing well exercises and even at the time of an injury. It is important to know how to treat it in time, because otherwise, frustration is taking over the minds of athletes. Symptoms of sadness, tiredness, lack of motivation in training and even depression and lack of interest in sports appear.
Today at Gymnastics Camp, we bring you a series of tips for you to learn how to manage frustration, and nothing stands between your goals and your workout routine. As Daniel Goleman, creator of the “Emotional Intelligence” concept, says, managing frustration is one of the most important skills to achieve success.
1. Being able to recognise situations that frustrate us:
As an athlete you should ask yourself to observe your routine and your feelings, when and why this feeling appears. Recognizing it does not make you a worse athlete or weaker, on the contrary, it means recognizing that it happens to us, and how we are.
For kids, who start in sports, sometimes, it is more complicated, because their ability to recognize their feelings is more reduced, but you can use small questions that take you to that space where the child is frustrated. For example: “What did you do today in training?” “How did you feel?” “Did you feel bad at any point?”.
2. Expressing negative thoughts:
It is vital that every negative thought and emotion you feel is expressed. Look for people you trust, talk to them and vent everything that is invading your head. It seems like an obvious exercise but saying things out loud helps us make up our minds about what we feel. On the one hand we can see that it is not so big what is blocking us and we can see it with more perspective. On the other hand, we can look at and observe the situation and approach it differently than we are doing.
3. Setting achievable targets:
It is very important to know that we are good at it, or that we have more facilities and where we stumble the most. Knowing the limitations of each and every one is a fundamental key to avoid feeling pressured by our own goals. Knowing your physical and mental abilities leads to setting goals that are more real to your condition. This does not mean that you do not demand yourself, but that you demand your body and mind with responsibility and thus advance at your own pace.
4. Anticipate the frustration:
This technique helps us to foresee in advance how we can handle this feeling if in the middle of a competition or a training happens to us. We can prepare a series of breathing or visualization exercises to move the mind away from the unconscious thoughts that approach us at that time. Or we can review exercises that we know how to do and do not give us any problem, to move the mind away from that event and recharge ourselves with confidence.
For younger children, we can advise before training what to do if they are frustrated. Encourage them and explain that nothing happens, that sometimes feeling like this is part of the sport and training and that they should not surrender or avoid training, they should face it and continue.
5. Good words:
The way we talk to ourselves is of the utmost importance, especially in times of heightened tension and of course frustration. Warm words, of understanding, of support…
There’s no point in crushing you, because then the blockage and anxiety will be greater. A moment of silence, of calm, breathing deeply and practicing the good words can help you more than you think. If your little one is going through a difficult or frustrating time, help her by expressing supportive and caring phrases that she can repeat in her mind when she feels that way.
There is a very famous phrase from Bo Bennett and that today at Gymnastics Camp we want to remind you, he says that “frustration, although sometimes it is quite painful, is a very positive and essential part of success”, it is not bad to fall, it is not bad to lose, Because everything is part of what sport means and sure of that you will learn and improve.